Wednesday, April 28, 2010

If variety is the spice of life (and who would argue against that time-honored axiom?), why does our society demand monogamy in marriage? How many times can you "be" with the same person, before you know every move, every sight, by heart? How can you continue to "get it up" when you've been up that road so many times before? Just look at the numbers...three times a week for 52 weeks, that's 156 times a year. In 6 1/2 years you've done it with the same person over 1,000 times! Even if you both try really hard to inject a little variety into the act, it's still going to be pretty dull after 1,000 times. Maybe that magic number explains the proverbial "7 year itch" that afflicts so many unions.
Not that I'm any kind of authority, you understand, since I do not trouble myself with matters of the flesh, so I could be mistaken. And, I have a good friend who claims to have "been with more men than you could shake a stick at," and she says that basically, they're all the same, so I guess that variety wouldn't make much difference, one way or the other. Unless, of course, you're talking about chocolates, in which case it's easy and socially acceptable to fill yourself with a delectable, mouthwatering, lip smacking variety of smooth, creamy treats in all sorts of colors, shapes and sizes. Mmmmm...I'm getting hungry.


carlos de la parra said...

Monogamy prevails mostly because it fits in with standards that vary from co-dependency to greed.
Which does not mean all marriages are bad.On the other end polygamy might be just as bad.
Loyalty,like love,must be a true feeling for a couple to function;
unfortunately our society is quite backward for our species,because we are ruled by so many fake paradygms and other issues that have created a social pyramid,that breeds slavery and unhappiness to the majority.
We must shift into a more humane dynamic to evolve.
They could just recycle everything that's bad into something good.

Bukowski's Basement said...

Ms. Z... You've just perfectly nailed the very essence of conflict in many of the stories we create... It's a HUGE hurdle indeed... Well put.

Gorilla Bananas said...

How about combing chocolate and sex? I believe it was done by David Thewlis and Jane Horrocks in Life is Sweet. That's a bit different, isn't it?

Extra Ordinary Me said...

Long-term monogamy is simply asking too much of ourselves. It's not natural! But some people go to the extreme in the other direction. I think allowing yourself and those you love to have the freedom to take each day as it comes is a good way to go... course, I'm really not an expert on the subject since I've been married and monogamous for... 10 freakin' years.

Breezmister said...

What's Love Got to Do With It

Fear my dear Z, is why many couples stay together. Fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, lose of being controled, or losing some one to control. It's the FEAR of the unknown, no matter how bad the relationship is, no matter how bad you are treated, the fear that no one will treat you better.

And that is why society demands we stay together.
Because some where, some one was afraid and need a reason to make their mate stay. Be it under God, or by the powers invest in the State.

True Love, if you can find it, be it for one night or a life time, is some thing to hold on to. You have to be the one to know the difference.
(evil snicker)

fingers said...

That's why nature came up with dementia, so that you'll have the illusion of speeing with strangers every night after a certain point in your life.
Personally, I'm about a year away from wandering into a bar, sitting down next to pretty girl and asking, 'Excuse I come here often ??'...

Randal Graves said...

Sometimes we stay together because we're lazy. Or the other person gives us lots of chocolate.

Savitra said...

The 1960s and 70s ended long ago. Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice all grew up and had rational lives and long happy loving marriages.

Harry said...

Funny, before I read this piece I thought the girl in the picture was yawning. After reading it I'm pretty sure she's dreaming. ;)