Sunday, August 21, 2011

Life goes on, and then it doesn't

Damn, damn, damn!  One of the nicest, bravest, funniest, most good-hearted men I've ever known died two days ago.  Yes, yes, I know...we all have to go sometime and he certainly had more than his share of risk factors.  Age (over 70), diabetes (both legs amputated), he smoked (in spite of doctors' dire warnings), and ate anything he danged well pleased.  But damn it!  He should have lived a lot longer, because he made people feel good.  You could never leave Buddy without a smile on your face, because he had a contagious smile of his own and lots of good stories to tell.  Adversity paid Buddy many visits, but Buddy never let him stay long.  The 14th child of a sharecropper family in Missouri, he was picking cotton by the time he was 5 years old.  He dropped out of school early and hit the road, having all kinds of adventures on his way to California, where he developed his "ladies' man" persona, which eventually swept my sister, Julie, into his arms.  Six kids, several moves, lots of financial woes, health problems (including the loss of one of his legs) happened, and Julie kicked him out.  Five years ago, he went back home to Missouri, where several of his kids and grandkids followed him.  I lost track of him and heard very little about how he was doing, except that his other leg was amputated a couple of years ago.  Not that a little thing like having no legs kept him down, however!  He got around just fine, thank you, with a couple of prosthetics, according to my favorite nephew, who sent me a photo of Bud standing up, with his characteristic big smile.

But now, he and his smile are gone.  Damn, damn, damn.

9 comments:

Gorilla Bananas said...

It sounds as if he had a very full life, Madam Z. Are you friends with any of the nieces and nephews he gave you?

Harry said...

It sounds like Buddy spent his life living. If he had to stop being "Buddy" to live another 10 years, what's the point? I'm very sorry for your loss, but 70 years with a lust for life is a good run. Rest in piece,Buddy!

Harry said...

Did I just say piece when I meant peace? Doh!

Madam Z said...

Yes, my favorite little gorilla, Bud did have a very full life.

Because of the many miles separating us, I am seldom in contact with the nieces and nephews, except for one. He and I have lively and frequent exchanges on Facebook!

Madam Z said...

Thanks for your wise words, Harry. I agree 100% with everything you said. What's the point, indeed!

Connor said...

sorry to hear about Buddy Z. He sounds like he was quite a character!

Hey! Youre on Facebook ? Do I find you under "Madame Z" ?

Madam Z said...

Hi Connor,

To find me on Facebook, try my boring regular name, Zelda Martin. I'm guessing your face is booked too, right? What's your handle?

Stephen said...

Good on him, I say. It sounds like Buddy did brilliantly with what he had. If I do half as well with both legs, I'll be a happy man. And although money and health is important, I'd say it's still better to be a person people remember fondly. St.

Madam Z said...

Thank you, Stephen. I appreciate your thoughtful insight. Now I'm off to check your website!